If you can’t get out of your own head about what to ask, here are ten stellar open-ended questions that are guaranteed to provoke interesting answers from the ones you love most.

Most people think about writing their own autobiography or memoir for years and years before they actually sit down to do it. These same people tend to carry around a lot of guilt about not writing it already, thinking things like, “It’s been X years, so why haven’t I gotten it done?” or “I keep on sitting at my desk, ready to write, but two hours later I’m still staring at a blank screen.”